You have one wing and I have another
Seeking shelter like sister and brother
Through the winter and through the summer
Like one angel we'll fly far away
Hold my hand and we'll make it right
/>From this hell that we live in
Cross the road until the light
Comes inside and lives within
It's a long and lonesome ride
When your friends have all gone home
But the roses in your eyes
They pull me in so I don't feel alone
You have one wing and I have another
Seeking shelter like sister and brother
Through the winter and through the summer
Like one angel we'll fly far away
Sometimes I just can't help but cry
When I think of what we've become
Like a soldier lost in the night
Forgetting all where he has come from
But the mud will soon become dry
And the sun will rise again
And the shadows in our eyes
Will fade away down to lower plains
Cause'
You have one wing and I have another
Seeking shelter like sister and brother
Through the winter and through the summer
Like one angel we'll fly far away
You have one wing and I have another
Seeking shelter like sister and brother
Through the winter and through the summer
Like one angel we'll fly far away
You have one wing and I have another
Seeking shelter like sister and brother
Through the winter and through the summer
Like one angel we'll fly far away
So my friend now this I say
I won't leave you hangin' on
Hold on tight now and don't fly away
'Till one angel we have become

Last night in the chatroom, we were discussing whether it was a good thing to live together before marriage.  My answer was the obvious no. Then, the guy saying that people should said that "Oh, gee, most marriages end within 2 years, and if you live together, you can argue everything out and whatever, and then commit."  My response was something like "Well, I think marriages end early because they focus on sex and then when that gets old, there's nothing left." 

Which got me to thinking.   What makes a good marriage?  For us, it's kinda simple.   Being the wing for the other one.  This song is "our song".  It's not a normally romantic song, but for us, it defined our courtship and marriage.  It's about being there for the other person. It's about encouraging him when he's down, and being willing to let him know that you need encouragement when you are. That is harder for me than encouraging him. 

Lately, he's been going through some stuff, partially because of some physical stuff, and partially because he was really hoping to have started down the other path by now.  I'm trying to be the wing, but not feeling like I'm doing a very good job, especially this week, as I've had the worst ... to put it politely, I have been almost flat on my back in pain from cramps.  And my mood has been foul.  So, I've almost needed as much help and encouragement as he has. I don't feel like I've done very well, but it seems to be enough. 

I've been realizing how much I love my husband.  How much that love has grown since I've gotten to know him. Yeah, sure, there are things that bother me about him (but not many), and the reverse is probably true. But he's the only one I've met that can make me laugh like he does, that I can turn around and make him laugh... It's good.  

All this to say, that I sometimes forget what I have, and I was reminded again last night.  The conversation got me to thinking about all the things he does for me without complaining, and that "being his wing" is the way I can return the favor. Sometimes, I can't help, which is harder, but I can be there. 

That's marriage.
And I'm blessed.