One of the things I've learned over the years (Which, I am not perfect in practicing by any stretch of the imagination) is one of the the best processes for conflict resolution.  It was taught to me, and I think it works.  Some folks may recognize it from the Bible: Matthew 18. But it seems to apply to a lot more situations than just the one specified.  The steps are these.  

One person, who is offended takes their offense  to  the offended person.  Completely privately.  Usually, this involves words like "I felt like..." or, "I noticed", or something.  Then, if the person does not respond, you go to step two. 

Step two is when you go to someone who has some sway over the person.  In a situation where authority is involved, that'd be that person's superior. In a place with no authority, that would be a good friend of the person (not necessarily your good friend). Talk the issue over with the person and the friend together, again, out of the earshot of the rest of the world. If no resolution, there is step three.

Step three is to have a meeting about it.  Everyone who is interested and has an opinion can get involved.  If this doesn't work, it means that it's possibly an irreconcilable issue, and if it's a big enough issue, then maybe it'll cause the people to part ways, or maybe it will be shelved and agreed to disagree. (Depending on the nature of the issue and the relationship)

This isn't directed at anyone in particular.  Seriously. I've talked to the folks I'm frustrated with. I just do not see this anywhere right now, and instead of taking up offenses there, (which I am prone to do, and am trying not to....) I want to just set this out.

Some of this should be wholly unnecessary for the situation I'm in, because it's a situation where the point of the relationship is to foster fun.  However, people are people, and if there needs to be more communication between injured parties, then so be it.

I will apologize for being snarky (for lack of a better word) and complaining to others. I'm trying not to do that, because I know it's not right.  If you want to tell me to hush when I do, please do so.   I'm also trying not to pick up offenses that aren't directed at me.  I can be really good at that, but it doesn't help me, nor does it help the people involved.  It only really leads to side-taking and loss of friends. 

I'm purposely making this vague, though the folks who know what it's about will see through it.  If you have something to say, send me a private message. I'm disabling the comments here.  Get ahold of me another way.  There are a kazillion.  My IM stuff is in the userinfo, and most of you know how to get ahold of me anyway.  thank you, and good night.